I learn from my readers. Sue from the Seattle area questions why there are multiple support groups for grandparents raising grandchildren and other kinship carers, but so few support groups for those who are denied visitation with their grandchildren. Sue notes that in my article about support groups, I characterize such groups as "rare." Sue asks, "Why is that? Are we embarrassed to talk about our situation?"
That's an interesting question. I've documented five types of emotional reactions to being estranged from a grandchild:
- Shock and anger
- Confusion and frustration
- Helplessness and hopelessness
- Envy and jealousy
- Guilt and grief
Perhaps I need to add shame and embarrassment to the list. Sue says that for two years she was too embarrassed to talk about her situation. Now that time is over, and she's looking for a place to find and offer comfort. If anyone knows of a support group in the Seattle area, please note the details in a comment below. For that matter, add any support group info that you have for any geographical location. There are a lot of Sues out there.