Youth sports have changed tremendously in the last twenty years. Many young athletes now hone their skills through groups known as travel teams or select teams. Some believe that this level of competition puts too much stress on young athletes. Many parents and grandparents who have shared this experience with their children or grandchildren see it as a unique opportunity to build skills, character and family ties. Have you had experience with travel teams or select teams? Share your insights!
No Respect Until Earned
- I am a proud coach of 13 10-year-old girls. Fastpitch softball. I have had the pleasure of watching these girls advance from rec ball to all stars to travel ball. One of the most difficult items to deal with in rec is the parents. Why isn't my kid playing this position? Why isn't my little girl improving? I have one girl who hasn't had a hit in 3 seasons, but she will. The whole team is behind her, and when it happens, it will be great. I love the game, just not the drama. They are little girls playing a complicated game, and parents should realize this. If you want to complain about coaching, coach your own team for one season, and see how difficult it is to keep everyone happy.
- —Guest tim
Travel Team or Teams?
- Since when did travel sports become "everyone makes the team"? Recently my town had about 15 kids sign up for travel BKB. Since it is too many for one team, they are encouraging more kids to sign up so that they can have two teams! Since when was it everybody makes the team? What about cutting a few kids and having one team with the best 10-12 players on it? I am so sick of the new attitude that everyone is included in sports. If my kid isn't smart enough for AP classes, should I run to the super of the school district and demand more AP classes so my kid is included? NO, I tell my kid to study harder. If he wants it that bad, get better grades. In sports this all-inclusive campaign is BS! If your kid doesn't make the travel team cause other kids are better, that's tough! Practice harder, work at your game. Heck even Michael Jordan got cut. He just worked harder and made it the next year. Lets stop coddling our kids and telling them they are so great when they aren't!
Travel Volleyball Victoria Texas
- We participated in travel league volleyball here in Victoria, Texas, and it was terrible. The coaches and the leaders of the swing organization were the worst I could have imagined. Our daughter did not get any game time, much less practice time. The coaches (which they were not) practiced and played their favorites and totally disregarded our daughter's feelings and concerns about court time. The behavior of the staff was so bad that daughter would be crying along with other children who were ignored. I stepped up and spoke up about this as I watched a father console his daughter, and by doing that, it made it worse for my child. Unbelievable the way we and our daughter were treated! When I spoke with the director, nothing came of it. Nothing was corrected, and we were then ignored. There was no fair play time. Daughter could serve overhand at age 8 as her mother coached her at YMCA and at home extensively. By no means were we treated fairly. Daughter in fact came out of this program with hurt feelings and her self esteem beaten down horribly. If this is what we should expect from league ball, we choose not to participate by paying money for games, uniforms, etc. Oh, yes, coaches do not want to be questioned about their actions. The response we got was, "We are not sure of what we are doing with players yet." (Lame answer.) So our experience was terrible and nothing like what we expected.
- My 10-year-old son plays competitive travel baseball out of one of the premier facilities in the country. We are there 100% because of him. In fact, we have tried to talk him OUT of playing competitive sports since he was little but he would not give it up. We play about 20 tournaments a year, up to 5 games a tournament and he LOVES it. He never grows tired of the sport. My thoughts on travel sports are the following: 1) The child has to be the sole motivating factor in doing it. If they are there for the parent, cease and desist parents. I see this often. If the kids are there b/c the parents want them to play more than they do, it's bad for everyone, especially the teammates! 2) Play at the best facility you can find with coaches who know what they are doing, or you are setting your kid up for injury. For baseball it's up to parents to watch the pitch count and insist your player be pulled. 3) Mean and "tough" does not mean good in coaching. The coach's personality should fit your child's.
TP Responder of Past Softball Travel
- Your response is obviously one of ignorance. When you respond boo-hoo after someone has shared something with you, you obviously show a total lack of compassion and understanding. My daughter has played travel softball since she is nine. It is my opinion the good coach is a rare find. Someone who supports, nurtures, consoles and inspires is a rare mix for anyone. More often than not, the coach sees wins and losses as an indictment of their abilities. When playing select or travel, the family usually pays a fee: Pay to Play. Yet most coaches are not paid, trained, or even knowledgeable in some of the basics. My daughter is now looking for another team, one where the coaches understand these concepts of support. One where the coach gauges success based on progress and not necessarily wins. And for the Boo Hoo guy, please stop reading ... you wouldn't understand. Hope all find their niche, and good luck.
- I have a 13-year-old basketball player. We have been playing year-round AAU basketball for 2 years and just spring ball since he was 7. We've seen many coaches and teams. My son's skill level is very good, but I'm finding that he is focused on the fun and the excitement of traveling with his friends and not on actually getting better as an athlete. It's a conflict because he's a kid and of course he wants to have fun, but these leagues are serious business now. Talent, which I know my son has, just doesn't cut it anymore. Kids have to be mature enough to play hard each and every game and have fun after. We are on a good team with a great coach. His coach has recognized my son's inconsistencies, and he's benched a lot now. I'm the one with the conflict because I don't want to keep spending all this time and money if he's not going to step up and play hard. I gave him a work-out regimen which he never does. He has talent and LOVES the game, but I want to pass for fall. Should I? To see if he'll work hard?
- —Guest GuestMom
My Son's Worst Moment in Sports
- My son plays travel soccer and currently is in U13. He has been on the second team for all his life, but when tryouts came for U13, he got picked for the premiere team. Even though he has been waiting for this moment his whole life, he was torn. You are probably asking why. All of his friends, including his closest friend who doesn't go to his school, got picked for the second team. So he had to pick between a better team where he will get more playing time because of how many were selected for the team, or he could go back to the second team where his friends are and probably wouldn't get as much playing time because of how many were picked. I swear he was up in his room crying almost the whole day. In the end he picked the first team and he became an all-star on the team, but it was not easy for us as parents to watch him not be able to decide and for my son to go through that. Some of you probably would have picked differently, but I thought this story was my son's worst time in sport.
- —Guest Guest
Other Kids Are the Issue
- My dd has done two years of travel soccer. Most of it has been great. However, there are two kids who are a problem. We don't want to play with them any more. If the coach picks them this year, we'll pass. My dd loves the game. She isn't a super star on anything, but she can play. These girls are so negative that the other girls on the team are second-guessing themselves. It is sad to watch.
If a coach or parent behaved this way someone would have done something. However, no one seems to know what to do about rude and negative girls.
- —Guest soccer mom
I like It!
- My sons play tournament baseball, and we all have enjoyed it as a family. The teams they are on do not travel very much and only play in local tournaments. We might play in 8 tournaments during the season from spring until the summer. As a parent I like my boys playing tournament baseball because they get a lot more out of it. When they played Rec. baseball they were more advanced than the other kids and were not getting anything out of it. They have expressed they like tournament baseball better because of the competition level and I like it because they are getting quality coaching. We don't play Rec. baseball anymore just tournaments.
- —Guest msplayer
The sports I love
- I am 13 and play on a 14U travel baseball team. I also play on a recreation soccer team. My dad coaches the baseball team and he is so hard on me. I'm about ready to quit the team and play middle and high school soccer instead of baseball. Even though I'm really good at baseball, I'm starting not to like it the more I play it. And I am in love with soccer and I'm ready to try out for a travel team. What should I tell my parents?
- —Guest Bsballplayer
- My 11-year-old daughter played travel softball this past summer, and our family really enjoyed it. There was a healthy balance of competition and support, and while not all the girls got equal playing time, the coaches were careful to give everyone game opportunities. I also felt that even though my daughter felt the pressure to perform well, she was never overwhelmed by this feeling, and it did not diminish her enjoyment of the sport. The coaches, of course, were excited for well-executed plays in the field and successful at-bats, but were also highly supportive and encouraging when the girls didn't perform as well. My daughter also learned a lot more about the game than she did from the rec league, and her playing improved tremendously. I was also really impressed by how supportive the rest of the team parents were of their daughters and of the program. I know we were lucky, though, because we did unfortunately sometimes see less-than-stellar behavior from coaches and parents of other teams.
- —Guest Isochrona
Thoughts from a D1 athlete
- While you do have a point with many families in sports, what about the kid whose drive and passion is 100%? As a parent of three self motivated athletes I only try to be supportive. The time and money spent are well worth it.
- —Guest ScMom
Select Team VS REC League
- My son will be turning 6 yrs old in 2 weeks and was just selected to be on a 7U baseball team in St.Louis. He has played baseball for almost 3 yrs up one level to just to play organized. He started at the age of 4 on a 5U team. 5 on 6U & 7U last fall. This fall he is 6 playing on a 7U select tea. When will he want to play with his own grade level or when will that level be good enough? I want him to learn and have fun. Are there ways to check the coaches out or the team? Thanks! A careful parent
- —Guest z06lang
- I agree with "thoughts from a D1 Athlete" Our 12 year old daughter began playing softball 18 months ago and has gone from zero to travel in that time span. We recognized early that she has the physical makeup to play this game in college (she is already 5'6" and SOLID) but still has a LONG way to go. I was also a D1 athlete and I come from a family of athletes; I have two close cousins that played major league baseball, one that played in the NFL, several relatives that played college, etc. and there is one thing that there is no substitute for.....PHYSICAL ABILITY. During tryouts this last weekend, I cannot tell you how many kids that were out there who simply did not have the physicality to be successful in sports beyond a purely recreational level whose parents somehow think they are the next D1 softball player! There are many things you need to be competitive in sports; a good attitude, drive, etc. You can have all of this but if you are 5'2" /85 lbs, it is time to get real.
good, bad and ugly
- My daughter played select ball for 8 years, so I think I am a fair spokesperson of the ins and outs of the programs. During her tenure she was lucky enough to play with many excellent girls. She made great friends from all over the Houston area and around Texas that she is still friends with today. She learned sportsmanship, built a lot of character and ultimately, how to be a better player. What she never learned to deal with were coaches. These guys (both m/f) are a different breed of human during a game and at practice. I am happy to say she did have some GREAT coaches who were concerned about teaching girls how to be the best they could be. She also had some coaches who had no business dealing with kids. They could be tempermental, obnoxious and sometimes out of control when dealing with kids. In just a few short words, they could tear down a lifetime of self-esteem building. You have a 50/50 chance of getting either, so good luck and remember, it's just for fun!
- —Guest ball mom