The Bottom Line
- Common sense, practical advice
- Concrete examples
- Personal experiences included
- A little pricey
- Paperback, 253 pages
- Published by Detselig Enterprises
- Publication date June 30, 2010
- List price $32.95
Guide Review - Grandparenting at Long Distance: Connecting With Grandchildren Across the Miles
If Wassermann isn't focusing on computer connections, what are her secrets? Her strategies aren't unusual, but she has a wealth of specific advice about how to make them work. For example, here are some hints about using the telephone to stay connected:
- Arrange a convenient time to phone. Ask the parents for a time that fits their family's schedule.
- Start early. Grandchildren can start listening to your voice on the phone before they are one year old.
- Have some topics in mind, and ask specific questions.
- Avoid questions that might create stress.
- Assume the responsibility for keeping the conversation going.
- Don't worry about repetition. Children love it. Using some of the same phrases each time you call will make your calls more comfortable for the child.
- Don't be afraid to express your love over the phone.
The postal service is also a boon for long distance grandparenting, Wassermann believes. She is a fan of sending letters and postcards. Age two is about right to begin this practice, she says, reminding us that we don't have to be on the road to send a postcard. She also advocates sending whimsical gifts through the mail, preferably gifts that are to be used in some special way. For example, she might send a small magnifying glass with suggestions for things to examine with it, or a pack of cards with instructions for a card trick. She also suggests sending photos to grandchildren, and reminds grandparents to caption their photos. A simple way to do this is to mount the photo on a piece of paper and write the caption on the paper. Recordings of favorite books are another treasure that can be sent through the mail.
Other topics include visiting grandchildren, traveling with grandchildren and grandparenting children with special needs, but the part of the book that is my favorite is the chapter about writing stories for grandchildren. Wassermann believes that all grandparents have enough writing skill to create stories starring their grandchildren, and that such stories are powerful connections between long distance grandparents and grandchildren. She suggests:
- Make the grandchild the central character, and use his or her real name.
- Include events in the grandchild's life.
- Include other family members, friends and pets.
- Use your natural voice.
In summary, this isn't a book of arcane secrets. Instead, it is a book of common sense advice and encouragement. Grandparents can't always be physically close to their grandchildren, but with Wassermann as a cheerleader, close relationships are a snap.