One mom is thinking out of the (toy) box. One of Mary Fischer's hints for keeping grandparents from buying too many toys is to have them clean the playroom. She thinks that when grandparents see how many toys their grandchildren have, they will dial back the gifting.
I'm not sure if Fischer's strategy would work, but it's worth a try. Some grandparents, however, believe that they have an inalienable right to spoil the grandchildren.
I'm not a super-indulgent grandparent in the first place, but I do try to be considerate of the parents, who have to find places to put all the toys the grandparents buy. One of my strategies is shared gifting. Every year at Christmas the grandchildren get some toys that stay at my house. The label says, "To all the grandchildren," and the grands know that they don't get to take those gifts home. Blocks, games, art supplies and outdoor play equipment make great shared gifts.
Do your gift-giving habits cause strain in your family? How does your family handle holiday gift-giving?