Since receiving an email inquiry about grandmother showers, I've learned that the topic elicits a wide variety of reactions. Most, though not all, grandmothers think grandma showers sound like a lot of fun. The naysayers label them "gift grabs" or say that a grandmother involved in such an event must be a "narcissistic" individual trying to make the birth of her grandchild "all about her."
Well-planned grandma showers should not bring such criticism down on their planners and honorees. In my opinion, a grandma shower shouldn't be much like a real shower. It should be small, just the closest friends of the grandmother-to-be. The gifts should be modest. I read about a shower to which each guest brought a classic children's book. Photo frames or personalized grandma gear may be specified instead. Another gift alternative is just to provide a basket in which friends can place inexpensive helpful items, like diaper wipes and baby shampoo. Personally, I wouldn't go for traditional shower trappings like a fancy cake, baby shower games and frou-frou decorations.
Perhaps part of the problem is the name. Perhaps we shouldn't be calling these events showers. I've read that some mothers reject traditional showers in favor of something more spiritual, called a Mother Blessing or a Blessingway. Maybe we should call these events grandmother blessings. On the other hand, thinking of my friends, we might be a little too raucous for that name.
What do you think about grandmother showers? Leave a comment below.