After I wrote about whether grandparents have the right to spoil their grandchildren, I heard from a grandmother whose indulgence sparked a reaction that most would regard as severe. I call the incident Rockergate.
The grandmother is a long-distance grandparent, so she doesn't see her granddaughter often. When she does visit, she stays for several days andágets to babysit during the day while the parents are at work. The baby's parentsáhave very definite ideas about child-rearing. The granddaughter has been taught to self-soothe and to go to sleep by herself. One afternoon during the grandmother's most recent visit, when it was time foráthe baby'sánap, the grandmother couldn't resistáthe rocking chair and ended up rocking the baby to sleep. That night, when her parents tried to put her in her crib, the baby screamedáand pointed toward the rocking chair. That led the mother to ask the grandmother, "What have you done to my baby?" A full confession followed, with the result that the grandmother wasn't invited for a visit for months. She now has a trip scheduled, but has been toldáthat she's on probation.
There are several ways to look at this situation. Most grandparents will think that the punishment was too harsh for the "crime." The bottom line is, however, that the parents asked that naptime be handled in a certain way, and the grandmother didn't respect their wishes.
What do you think about Rockergate? Was the parents' reaction extreme or totally justified? Leave a comment below.