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Susan Adcox

Bad Grandma!

By February 26, 2010

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Right now I'm feeling like a bad grandma. I had a lot to do today, but I opted to start off with my water aerobics class, one of my favorite ways to keep fit, and one that helps me meet my Presidential Active Lifestyle goals. Then it was home to edit my About.com newsletter (Have you signed up?) and call my doctor about a snafu with a prescription. I fit breakfast in there, fielded a couple of phone calls and answered emails. About 3:30 I remembered: I was supposed to have gone to one of my grandson's school programs this afternoon.

Bad Grandma! I kicked myself around the house and then kicked Grandpa, too, because I had told him about the program, and he didn't remember either. I know that most people my age (and younger) occasionally forget things, but that doesn't keep me from feeling bad. It is a good illustration of the principle that grandparenting isn't always fun, because it brings extra responsibilities and sometimes a lot of guilt.

Have you ever been a bad grandma? Make me feel better by sharing your grandparenting gaffes in a comment below.

February 26, 2010 at 9:18 pm
(1) Jennifer Wolf says:

Oh, Susan, I’m so sorry! I know just how this feels. I’m not a grandma yet, but know that I’ve been there when it comes to forgetting something that was really important. I once wrote down the wrong time for my son’s parent-teacher conference, and when I showed up (15 minutes late), the teacher had left for the evening. I felt awful! I hope your family is generous to you with their forgiveness. We all make mistakes, and your heart is right there with them.

February 27, 2010 at 3:01 pm
(2) Laurie says:

They say nobody’s perfect, but I say that you’re about as perfect as a grandma can get. Think of all the times you are there to help when you are needed, and all the love and fun you share with your grandkids. You are the best.

February 28, 2010 at 10:06 pm
(3) Pam Drake says:

You crack me up! Love the line about kicking Grandpa. I find that if it isn’t on my calendar, it just might not happen. There is no guilt deeper than when that grandchild looks at you and says, “It’s okay, Grammy.”

I worked with high school kids in Theatre. The biggest disappointment was when a family member didn’t show up. We deserve that royal kick in the backside when we forget, but it reminds us who important we are in the lives of those precious grandchildren. It reminds us that we need to try harder.

March 1, 2010 at 11:15 am
(4) Karen says:

Oh yes, I have been a bad grand mother. But I am lucky with a granddaughter who understands. I have given each grandchild a scrapbook that has a quilted cover with their monogram on it. My oldest should have gotten hers January 17. Notice I said “should have?” At least I took her to choose the fabric.

I try to be as involved as I can in their lives. Some things I make – some things I can’t. The grandchildren know I’m there in spirit at least – and I am sure yours do also.

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